In March I shared my miscarriage story. If you are new, you can read more about that here. Since then you ladies have been a wealth of knowledge and given me so much support – thank you.
I wanted to share a little update into where we are in our in our TTC (trying to conceive) journey.
Its been a really shitty few months, I can totally own up to those feelings. On the surface everyday is another day. I really am so lucky to have two handsome boys and the perfect family. I have mentioned it before but that is the funny thing about life, it never stops for you no matter what you are feeling. Traveling for work, dressing up with the kids for Halloween, all the things continue on.
Current feelings: Upset, confused and angry. Insert lots of sarcasm and drinking.
Several months after the miscarriage I decided to call 75 specialist to find someone who would meet with me and hear me out.
Why? I knew that something was off.
In the past we could just “wash our underwear together and get pregnant” (thank you to the gal that sent me this hilarious quote)! It was true, so I was confused why it took months for us to conceive – then miscarry – then more months of nothing.
Finally, I got someone to meet with me without trying for a year – who has a year to wait?
First steps….. testing for me and my husband to see what was going on. In the back of my mind I kept thinking, this will do the trick just being here and we will get pregnant!
It turns out that we fall into the 30% category of infertility, which is “secondary infertility.” Secondary infertility is when a couple has previously had children and now cannot conceive.
So what’s the problem, why did this happen…
The #1 cause of secondary infertility = something to do with sperm. (I have said the word sperm more times in the last 3 months than I ever want to). Another fun fact for you because I’m all about statistics…. 40% of infertility is due to “sperm”.
* editing to update : our first Dr. led us in the wrong direction. The sperm was / is great. We don’t know how/ why the first reading was so off.
* I have lower egg count and I ovulate way later than what google says is average
We took the news and wanted to know our choices…..
9% chance of ever getting pregnant on our own
20% chance of getting pregnant using IUI
60% chance of getting pregnant with IVF
Being logical we decided to take our first chance and try IUI.
Turns out I’m allergic to the medication I needed to take. I had to get off the meds after the IUI, which caused a period – not the outcome we had hoped for. Another fun fact, I am not allergic to anything else. 33 years and never had an allergic reaction.
Next cycle, we decided to try IUI again and give me a lower dose of the medication I’m allergic to. I’m fine with a rash on my face if I can get a baby.
Unfortunately, my next ultrasound showed that I developed cysts from the medication. Again, never had cysts before.
My Dr. has to put me on birth control to eliminate the cysts, and getting on birth control is not fun if you haven’t been on it for a million years.
So during this time we are asking our insurance what they cover and they require another sperm analysis to allow us into the program.
New results, which are better. Wait what? Like why didn’t we test this multiple times too? * this was the update from above.
We are still at a stand still until the cysts go away and a few weeks away from another ultrasound.
If you made it this far you are the best. Thanks for letting me share my story. I hope in some little way this helps another couple know that they really are not alone. This isn’t the end and don’t give up.